Am I Normal for Not Loving Anyone?

In today's society, many equate being numb to being strong. If you can't be moved, you cannot fall easily. No one can let you down because you don't expect anything from anyone. Love is seen as a constant give and take thing, but you neither give nor take. You exist well enough in life with full control of your responsibilities, climbing the corporate ladder, and without the distraction of the stuff and nonsense that comes with love.

The question arises: is it normal to not love anyone? People often care less about functionality and more about personal satisfaction. Personally, I feel we were created to live a life filled with love. To give and take, to share and care for one another. Because, while you can carry on well enough alone, there will be times when you wish someone was there to help or advocate for you. And to be wanted back is a reward too. To find someone you trust enough to love is the greatest gift.

Living in a World of Lovelessness

But you're not alone in this world of lovelessness. So, it's understandable why some might view it as the natural way to be. Many people no longer feel the true depth of love like before. There might be a temporary notion of it, even in marriage, which lasts for only a couple of years. Not the 40-year marriages of your parents and grandparents. The intense communication and honesty between two people are often broken down. Folks can text better than they can talk face to face, barely knowing the person they are trying to love.

Then, after six months into the relationship, they are so surprised that the person they committed to has changed! Everyone doesn't change drastically; they were that way all along. You just never looked. It's important to become best friends first before falling in love. Best friends talk to each other. I've noticed some people know their friends better than they know their spouse. At the very least, it seems to me that's not healthy.

Is Not Loving Anyone Normal?

Yes, for some, not loving anyone is normal. Just remember, you should not live your life alone if you truly don't want to. But if that's your choice, embrace it and be that way. It's about accepting your own happiness and well-being. You might find that embracing independence and self-reliance has its own rewarding moments.

Embracing Independence

Even if you're among the majority who feel alone and disconnected, try not to equate being numb with strength. Embrace your emotions fully, understand your feelings, and find ways to express them. Write, paint, or engage in activities that bring you joy. Lean on your friends and family when you need support. Remember, it's okay to be alone and happy.

Conclusion

In closing, not loving anyone can be a choice, but it's not something that should be forced or accepted if it doesn't make you happy. There's a difference between being lonely and being alone. You are not alone, and you deserve to be loved and to love. Embrace this journey of self-discovery and growth, and find happiness in your own way.